Infidelity Homicide

Increased cases of homicide in the country were Wednesday attributed to infidelity, trauma, and breakdown of social fabric, which has demeaned advice from the elderly.

Nakuru County Psychological Officer, Dr. Peter Muchemi, said infidelity did not just relate to sexual matters, but it includes betrayal in financial investment and lack of appreciation of one’s spouse and effort.

He was speaking during an interview with KNA at his office.

He said domestic homicide were common in couples between the age of 30 and 40 years, when people stop to reassess and re-examine their lives.

Between the ages of 30 and 40 years, couples tend to ask themselves a fundamental question; is this marriage worthy my effort? he said.

He said during the self-re-evaluation, they look at various issues, such as loyalty, reliability, trustworthiness, dependability, devotion, commitment and conformity.

He added that during the self-appraisal and evaluation stage, if the spouse is regarded as wanting, they may start mulling over how to get rid of them, so that they can start their lives all over again.

All homicides are premeditated and calculated over a long time, but if at that stage the offended spouse gets psychological assistance, the murder may be avoided, he said.

He derided the belittlement of wives’ complaints by society, and yet they are the red flags, which are likely to prevent murders and killings in families.

Dr. Muchemi said because society stigmatizes and blames divorced women, they are likely to kill their children and commit suicide due to fear of alienation by society.

He urged counties to set up counseling centres to reduce the heart-wrenching cases of cold-blooded murder, suicide, arson and domestic violence across the country.

He said counties should engage research experts to carry out studies on the trends, causes and solutions to prevalent cases of people turning against their own.

People need to be sensitized on the importance of seeking assistance from professionals to help them solve their social challenges inherent in their daily struggles, he said.

He attributed the frequent killings among the disciplined forces to unresolved trauma, witnessed during operations or war, and not drugs and alcoholism as it is always assumed.

He gave an example of the Kenya Defense Forces in Somali, who may have gone through traumatic events, and require counseling, so that they may not become a danger to their innocent families, who have been longing for their return home.

Source: Kenya News Agency